Let's talk about being a good wife

" The grace of a wife delighteth her husband, and her discretion will fatten his bones. A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed. A shamefaced and faithful woman is a double grace, and her continent mind can not be valued. As the sun when it arieth in the high heaven; so is the beauty of a good wife in the ordering of her house." - Ecclesiasticus 26:13-16

Ladies! Yes I went there this morning! I know, I know.  "You weren't expecting that!" I'm quoting myself from my podcast "Hangin with Ms. Cooper".  Shameless plug, but back to topic. These verses aren't meant to make you feel bad or feel some sort of way negatively. For all of you who are saying that you're a Proverbs 31 woman...this set of veres reinforces it. Being a good wife means that sometimes...you gotta be quiet. It doesn't mean that you don't have a say and that you dont' matter. It simply means that there is a time to talk and a time to speak...and knowing when each occassion is...it's a blessing to not just yourself, but to your house. 

I'm almost 7 years in..and I'm still figuring it out as a wife. I don't have all the knowledge. I don't have all the wise "words" to speak to another sister about marriage. What I do have is the smarts to pick up my Bible whenever I'm struggling and have an issue. I have the smarts to consult with other wives about marital issues, and most importantly, going to my Heavenly Father for the ultimate answers to my questions.  You see there was a time when I didn't think that I would ever get married. I was the last of my siblings to get married. I'm my father's only girl and I'm the oldest. So it was a BIG deal to myself that I get married one day. But I also was a single parent. The odds were definetely against me. 

Now I mentioned this before, but you can't apply today's thinking or culture into your marriage. Meaning you can't follow influencers or these so called experts. You just can't. They don't have the knowledge that you need. What they want is your views and your money in order to support their own lifestyle. If you want solid advice on how to keep your marriage in tact, you keep in your Word and you keep your prayer life in tact with the Most High. Now he's going to say somethings that may cut you, but it's for your own good. The instructions that he has for us women is different than what he has for men. 

Married life can be a challenging thing. EVERYDAY you have to work at it. When you were asked to be that man's wife, you accepted a job. You accepted the job as a housekeeper (running the household), a mother (giving birth and raising up the children) and keeping up with everything else in between. And with those responsiblities comes blessings. But those blessings have to be worked for,and you're not entitled to them without doing said work. 

Being a wife is a beautiful thing my sister. Embrace it. Embrace the beauty that the Most High has given you in the form of a husband, children, a home and most importantly, the chance for even greater things. You got this! Have a great day Sis!