Let's talk about Anger

1A gentle answer turns away wrath,

but a harsh word stirs up anger.

2The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge,

but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

3The eyes of the Lord are everywhere,

keeping watch on the wicked and the good.

4The soothing tongue is a tree of life,

but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.

5A fool spurns a parent’s discipline,

but whoever heeds correction shows prudence. ~Proverbs 15:1-5

 So if you know me personally, you know that I don't shy away from using personal examples. This morning someone cut me off when I was taking my husband to work. I had to do a sudden stop in the middle of the road and had to honk my horn. The other driver of courese just kept going. I literally was breathing hard and shaking because it gave me a flashback to a hit and run that I had at the end of last year. I got ANGRY because I felt wronged and just wanted to chase the person down. I clearly didn't, but I spoke about what I wanted to do. My husband reminded me about what the law said and that it wouldn't do me any good and that I would be in the wrong had I acted on my words. He also called me a "Billy Bad Ass". That part angered me because I was already feeling a lot of emotions and him saying that to me didn't help the situation. Needless to say, it caused an argument and he got out of the car angry too. I had to sit in the car for a moment before I drove off because I had to get my mind right. It took me almost an hour to calm down from the near miss and the fight. I also had to realize something very sobering...my husband was correct. 

I KNOW! NOT WHAT YOU EXPECTED ME TO SAY!

  But he was correct. If I had run down that driver, it wouldn't have mattered what the driver had initially done...I would've been in the wrong and faced consequences. I would've had to possibly pay a fine. Worse, if that other driver had a weapon on them and had thought to defend themself..I would've been hurt or possibly dead. 

     Now could his words have been better? Absoultely! But I also had to remember something else. He was right there with me when the near accident almost occured. He also went thru those emotions with me and was REACTING just like I was. We forget that at times in our own emotions, that someone else is also going thru something. Now as of this writing, I haven't spoken to him. I do plan to because that kind of strife shouldn't be left in the air. I had to get myself right before I could approach him with kind words and not start another argument. Getting in my word has definetely helped with that. Does it always work that quickly for me? NOPE! I get in my own way all the time! 

    I say all of this to say that, taking some time to yourself, praying, getting in this Word will HELP YOU! Give it to the Most High! He's got your back, you just have to let him! I will have to apologize to my husband later for my reaction to him. I honestly don't feel like I should, but I know that it's the right thing to do. I also know that I will feel better because of it because I had to admit that I handled the situation based off of emotion instead of logic. It's a hard pill to swallow, but I know that it will definetely help me when situations like this arise in the long run. 

    Have a great day my Sistahs!