Hey Sis, let's talk about being led with your emotions
The biggest thing that I see with most of our Israelite women...you're not READING YOUR BIBLE! How can I tell? Most of the time whenever I'm doing my usual social media scrolling, I come across posts from women asking for advice, and needing scripture to find the answers to their questions. I'm also seeing that they're asking for scripture for other reasons...their feelings.
You do know that feelings are temporary right? Meaning that you will feel one thing, one moment, and feel something completely different the next. Unfortunately just like a drug, feelings can become an addiction too. Women want to feel "justified" in their feelings and want to use knowledge to stand on those feelings. So what else I will see is women posting videos from these so called motivational speakers or from pastors. They will post just what "feels good" to them. So they will THINK that they are sharing knowledge and at the same time feel JUSTIFIED in their feelings. I'm here to tell you Sis...You're being played!
First of all,why are you listening to a man about how a woman feels? A man only knows how a woman feels because she either showed him or TOLD him. A man has absoultely no way of knowing how a woman feels and how to guide her thru those emotions without help from the Most High. If you're out here listening to these motivational speakers or pastors giving "advice" because it feels good...Sis you already messed up. These men out here giving that advice are also the same men who will "charge" you a fee or sell you a book in exchange for what they call "sound advice". I'm here to tell you, a fee isn't necessary when learning the Word or praying to the Most High for the answers.
Sis how often do you actually pick up your Bible whenever you're having a problem? Go ahead...I'll wait. How often do you take some time and go to your quiet place and pray? How often do you speak to the Most High about your problems and wait for him to reveal to you the answers that you're looking for? Go ahead...I'll wait again for your answers.
If you can't answer or if you say not enough...Sis you gotta make some changes! First and foremost...STOP LOOKING TO VALIDATE YOUR FEELINGS! Just stop! It's NOT about your feelings and how you feel. It's about the problem that lies in your path and about how to resolve said problem so that you can continue in your walk. Remember that feelings are temporary. You can be upset with your husband one minute and love him unconditionally the next. You can have resentment one second, and love in your heart the next moment. It's an ever changing cycle.
Now before you come for me, I'm not saying not to seek advice from wise counsel. You need to actually do that along with your head whenever you can't come to a mutual understanding. What I'm saying is that you shouldn't be seeking validation from sources outside your marriage on your own. Meaning, stop looking to social media for the answer to your marital problems! You have an issues, seek wise counsel, speak with a sister whom is wise and can use Bible knowledge to help guide you thru some bad times.
"Behold, Ahlahayam is mighty, and despiseth not any: he is almighty in strength and wisdom. He preserveth not the life of the wicked; but giveth right to the poor. He withdraweth not his eyes from the righteous: but with the kings are they on the throne; yea, he doth establish them for ever, and they are exalted. And if they be bound in letters, and be holden in cords of affliction; Then he sheweth their work, and their transgressions that they have exceeded . He openth also their ear to discipline, and commandeth that they return from iniquity. If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity and their years in pleasures. But if they obey not, they shall perish by the sword and they shall die without knowledge. But hypocrites in heart heap up wrath, they cry not when he bindeth them. They die in youth and their life is among the unclean. He delievereth the poor in his affliction, and openeth their ears in oppression. "
"Desire not the night when people are cut off in their place. Take heed, regard not inquity for this hast you chosen rather than affliction. Behold, Ahlahayam exalteth by his power: who teacheth like him? Who hath enjoined him his way? or who can say , You hast wrought iniquity ? Remember that you magnify his work which men behold. Every man may see it, man may behold it afar off. Behold Ahlahayam is great, and we know him not, neither can the number of his years be searched out. For he maketh small the drops of water: they pour down rain according to the vapour thereof: which the clouds do drop and distill upon man abundantly. Also can anyone understand the spreading of the clouds, or the noise of his tabernacle? Behold, he spreadeth his light upon it, and covereth the bottom of the sea. For by them judgeth he the people, he giveth meat in abundance. With clouds he covereth the light, and commandeth it not shine by the cloud that cometh betwixt. The noise thereof sheweth concerning it, the cattle also concerning the vapour." - Job 36: 5-15, 20-33
Stop seeking Bible verses to validate your feelings especially if those feelings are of strife, anger, or selfishness. The term "cherry picking" Bible verses is great for that. Also stop using the Bible to cut the other person down, especilaly in an argument. Clearly you would be a hypocrite for doing so. Just like you, I'm not perfect. I fall short and I'm making a huge effort to change my ways so that my ways align more with the Word and not with man. My own husband falls short. It's not my job to use the Word to condemn him and his faults. It's not my job to make him feel bad. Just like it's not his job to justify my feelings using the Word in a false way. Read your word in context and ask for assitance if you don't understand. But NEVER use it to justify bad behavior.
The Bible is not meant to make it sound nice or work to your advantage. It's a tool to help you learn and to teach. It's literally what we have of the Most High's words. Don't abuse it. And defintely don't use it to add confusion.
I know this was a lot, but it was necessary. Sis READ your word everyday. You want understanding? Reach out to another Sister or ask your Head. Study together. PRAY. But stop using the Word maliciously and for justification of your tempoary feelings. Remember, the Word offers comfort, but it also offers direct lessons in teaching (which don't always feel good) but it's there for your own good.
You weren't expecting that!
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